How to Make Your Long-distance Relationship Work at University

Congratulations. You’ve been accepted into the university you wanted. You’re overwhelmed with excitement and anticipation. Yet, if you’re in a relationship, you might be asking yourself: will university break us? 

If you’re a student, the end of summer means one thing. It’s time to venture off to uni. Whether its your first, second or final year, knowing what to do about your love life can be difficult. 

For many, moving to university and throwing yourself into a new, bizarre and hectic lifestyle is exhilarating. For those in relationships, though, the prospect of leaving their safety net can be bittersweet. With the likelihood of most couples attending separate universities, it is no surprise that most people doubt the longevity of the relationships. 

Not so long ago I conducted a poll on Twitter asking users if they believe long-distance relationships at university can work. I found that 51% of people had little hope for them lasting. 

However, there have been many success stories. My boyfriend and I have been together before going to university, and despite being five hours apart during term time, we are both going into our final year still an item. 

So, if you find yourself struggling to know how to make your relationship work long-distance, here are a few tips that may help. 

Communication 

As cliché as it may be, communication is key. Especially in a long-distance relationship. University can be hectic, but it’s important to set some time aside to speak to your boy/girlfriend if you want the relationship to work. You can call, Facetime, send video diaries or write letters to each other all year round. Find what works for you and stick at it. 

Have a Routine 

This may sound incredibly boring and unromantic but having a routine of when you speak to or see each other can be beneficial. My boyfriend and I aim to see each other at least once a month and speak to each other every night. But it’s important to note that sometimes life gets in the way. If you have too many assignments due the weekend you’re supposed to visit your partner, don’t panic. Just see each other the following weekend. Don’t forget, surprise visits are always a win. 

On a serious note: if at any point you feel that your relationship is interfering with your university work, it’s probably time to call it quits. 

Plan ahead 

Having something to look forward to is a great way to numb the pain of being apart. Whether it’s a cinema date or weekend break, future plans with your partner will make the time go by quicker. 

Give each other space 

University is the perfect time to venture out of your comfort zone, make amazing friends, and party before it’s time to go out into the ‘real world’. Some may think that if you’re in a relationship then you risk missing out on the full university experience. A lot of the time this isn’t the case. 

However, if you don’t give each other space whilst at university, the relationship can quickly feel suffocating and you may find yourself missing out on uni life. So, talk when you can, but if you fancy going out one night try not to feel any pressure to contact your partner. If there is trust in your relationship, giving each other space every now and again will only help your relationship to grow.

Karis Nash

Lifestyle Writer

Aspiring writer and animal lover, Karis, is a 20-year-old media student from the UK. If not found indulging in a chai latte and reading Vogues latest edition, you may find Karis walking around central London with a camera in her hands. She loves to travel and wishes to discover all that the world has to offer.

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  1. Fantastic advice from your own experience , always helpful to share as this is a huge part of university life for those in long term relationships 👏🏻 X

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